Domestic Violence Safety Plan Strategies to Consider:
Protecting yourself when you are leaving - When you plan to leave, do so without telling your abuser face-to-face. If you have to leave quickly (during an incident) JUST LEAVE. Do not talk to your abuser about it. Do not threaten to leave at a later time. If you leave when your abuser is not home communicate with him/her later by phone or from a safe place. THE most dangerous time for you is when you are leaving. Most domestic murders occur when your abuser knows or thinks you are leaving.
Consider what you might do to increase safety during an argument or if you can tell abuse is coming. For example, some rooms in your home may be safer than others. Some survivors try to move away from the kitchen because it has knives and other many sharp objects. Some survivors try to stay close to a door, so they could run if they needed to.
Plan how you would escape if you needed to. If you live in an apartment building, make sure you know all the ways out of the building. Consider where you could go to get to safety. You could learn how to get to a local police station, fire department, hospital emergency room, church or 24-hour gas station.
Consider talking with your children about safety. Some survivors teach their children how to call 911, or talk with them about a neighbor’s home or place in the community that may be a safe place to go in an emergency.
Prepare an emergency bag. You may want to put together an emergency bag, you may be able to keep it at a trusted friends or family member’s home. Here is a checklist to help you decide what to take. Remember none of these is as important as getting out with your life!
* House keys/Car keys
* Order of Protection
* ATM card/check book/credit card
* Green card/Work permit
* Public Assistance ID
* Mobile phone and/or coins to use in a payphone
* Driver's license & registration
* Social security card
* Your partner’s social security number
* Medical records
* Address book/pictures
* Insurance cards and/or policies
* Important legal documents
* Police records • Record of violence
* Baby’s things (diapers, formula, medication/car seats)
* Children's favorite toy
* Children’s school and immunization records
* Birth certificates
* Important phone numbers - 911, friends, family, clergy.
Lincoln County Domestic Violence Crisis Line and shelter 406-293-3223
(toll free 1 877 493-7139 or Eureka area 406-291-2715)